Sadhguru: "Do THIS Before Having a Child!" (IMPORTANT)

Give us some perspective about something that we should think. While making a decision are not making a decision but the kids why are you making all the decisions? So that's the first thing we need to understand is Children only come true. They don't come from you. 

They are not your property. To be conducted, whichever way you feel sit.

 Now, they are not if you treat them as your property, Or your future investment. If you treat them as such, you are committing a certain sacrilege against creation and a creator for which there will be a price simply if you come in the form of life or maybe it'll come in the form of your children. 

The price. Yes will be very unfortunate to see that. I'm saying this. A very cruel thing to say to any parent, but I am saying this. Because it's a very cruel thing to parent a child. The child doesn't need that, but please see in so many ways you're doing everything possible to see that he remains dependent on you in some way or the other, you're not thinking of liberating him. So the moment Start working. You want your children to be attached to you? 

Well, you yourself open bhagavad-gita and read and say you should not be attached, I should not be attached. You tell your wife, she don't be attached to me, but your children, you want them attached to you before you choose to have children. 

You must think about this things but if already it is happened, now, at least now you must think about it properly. Seriously, one thing is, if you want to produce Something little better than yourself to the world. It's important. If you produce a child it must be at least one step better than you. Isn't it? 

The same nonsense is going to happen once again, what's the point? So something better than you has to happen. Means the first and most fundamental thing is you are 100% straight, even if it's embarrassingly straight, you are 100% straight is important. This is something very hard for most parents because that's the only place where they get to boss around. They have a Committed audience in their children wherever else they speak?

 Nobody will listen to them. Children till they become 12. Years of age, 13 is dangerous. Till they become 12 years of age, you have a committed audience, you're losing that. Also many of you much earlier, is it? Yes, much earlier you losing it. So how old are these? Okay. There's enough room for correction.

 You must do this. Stop parenting them. What they need is some good company. Not a bloody boss walking around in the house. Yes, or no. When you were growing up. Did you like it being talked down to? Did you like it? No. So what they need is a friend, they don't need a Bloody father and mother that job is already done. Fathering somebody mothering. Somebody means biologically. Delivering them that's been done. 

Now they're trying to become a Life by themselves. What they need is a friend, the only qualification you have against them or over them. He's you came here a few years earlier than them. That's all you have. What else do you have a mask? Are you sure you're more intelligent than your child? Are you sure? Huh. But yes, so the most important thing you need to understand. Just you came here a few years earlier than them. All you have done is a few years earlier, you landed here beyond that you have no other qualification to tell them what to do and what not to do yes or no. But the other consideration is, if you don't tell them, 

somebody else unqualified advice on the street will happen, you only have to guard them against that. But if you have, Guard them against that that you must have the courage to bring them up in such a way that they don't take any advice from you either. 

You say what I say? You must listen but don't listen to your friend. He's telling you to take a drug. Don't listen to him. But what the friend says seems to be more of a pleasure than the nonsense that you talking about, that's a fact isn't too. It's not going to work. If you bring up your child with a such a fierce sense of his own intelligence and his own decisions. Then you will see, he will seek help because he will very easily realize that his intelligence. His understanding is not good enough for everything. But if you bring him up that he has to listen to your advice, she will come up with a rebellious even when good things are said he won't do that, he will do the reverse of it. This is something that most parents are experiencing, isn't it? He wants to do, just the reverse of it just to feel independent because he doesn't know what it means to be independent. So for is not bad. Now, you can start treating them as just one more person. As my child, my child, you do not use. I'm telling you. At the most, you given some genetic substance to create a body, you can't create a life, don't have such grandiose ideas about yourself. You cannot create a life, you just provided some substance. Some genetic substance to make a body ets. 

The to you did not think about all these things. Out of your own compulsions, you do something and the land up? Yes. So understanding that a child is not, you're making. It's a privilege. They have come true. You enjoy the privilege. Cherish the privilege, respect the privilege, do not abuse. The flu. Like that's been given to you very important. Why are you brought up this or that you're supposed to grow up as a human being, isn't it? It is just that most people never create an atmosphere for people to grow. They have brought up the way you want them to be, not the way they should be as life. If you're not ramming up nonsense into their head, they have a tremendous sense of observation. And observation naturally pops up a million questions. You answer as many questions as you can the way, you know it. What you don't know, you just tell them, I don't know. My only problem is, I came a few years earlier than you, this doesn't mean I know everything. It made it to your children. What's the problem? Yes. You think they can't read? You're not even bloody sincere about things that you're saying. You think they can't see it. If you think they can't see it, I want you to know by the time they are, can 1213, if they have some problem with in them, they don't come to you. They go to their friends. Why? Because they feel they are more sincere than you know the reason yes or no, you are acting like you will drop from heaven. Who wants to listen to your nonsense? Unless they are, so bloody brainwashed. By the time they're 10 12, they will not listen, any intelligent human being will not listen to bullshit. Yes. Or no, unless you brought upon it, seriously. So, just handle this privilege sensibly. Respectfully, do not abuse this privilege. Just you have to protect them from wrong influences, rest. Leave them free. If you think they will anyway, go wrong, that must be your own self knowledge. You're so sure of yourself my children bound to go wrong. 

Just protect them from you have to protect them a little bit from wrong influences. But at the same time they must remain free of your influence, which is also a bad influence. I'm saying, if you show that what you're doing is of real worth and you're willing to invest your life in that. Why would you children not invest their life in it? If you don't show that commitment? If you do not show that involvement with life and you're expecting them to become wonderful, whatever. No, it will not happen. And they don't listen to what rubbish. Saying they're observing, what you do and how you are, isn't it. So if you want to raise children, please raise yourself. Don't worry about the children. This raised yourself into your wonderful, human being, make yourself that it will reflect it, cannot go wrong. But there's no guarantee like in everything in line, there's no guarantee because there may be some other stronger influence, on the street side, isn't it? And the best thing you can do for your child is. If you think the way you are is everything, naturally, your aspiration will be. They should become like you Which will be a backward step for next generation of people, what the Next Generation should be. What you cannot imagine, that's what they should be. If you mold them, how will you mold them? Like yourself and maybe your parents were better at molding than you. So you will do a worse job than them. Because probably your mother, your father, at least for your mother, maybe it was a full-time job molding business. Your part-time older, we can imagine what you will do. Don't try to mold them. Just a child needs a stable. Pleasant atmosphere to grow. To create a joyful. I'm saying first joyful first, joyful then loving do you understand otherwise this just bloody sappy loud without any joy and Bliss around. It is will make people miserable or a period of time first joyful atmosphere. If you're capable of holding it, then you can add a little bit of your love to it. Children will need your love and attention till they are five six. Seven after that, they want to distance themselves, they want to become Their own thing and it's fine. You just your your only business is to keep them in a very joyful and loving incubator. But your business is not do more than one thing. Your child should not become his, they should not become like you. They should become something more than you. What you are, isn't it? Your idea of something more is they must earn more than you. They must have a bigger car bigger house. This is unfortunate. If you are this joyful, they should become more joyful than you. If you are this intelligent, they should become more intelligent than you, if you this balance them as before more balanced than you. Yes. If your life is this Rich their life must be much richer richness. Not You're rid of the richness of your child's life or your life for that matter. Should never never be a contribution from what you have, what you have gathered. Should never enhance your life, please get this for yourself and your child who you are, is who you are. What you have is to what extent is useful to us. We'll have those things, everything. Whatever we can use and enjoy. We will have, but never try to enhance your life. Never try to end.

You Are by what you where they work. Where you live. What you own these things should be useful. You use them to the Limit. No problem. But they should not enhance who you are, who you are should happen from within you. If your child grows into this, whatever he or she becomes it's fine, they need not be like you. Once, you don't have this problem that they don't, they don't have to be like you, then you will see such a joy and freedom to raise your child. Your only struggle is they're not like you. Yes, daily struggles with the children is just this. They are not shaping up like you. How glad I am.